I'm very upset today and very heart broken. Zhi Ying hit me. She didn't want to let Sue Yin touch the arm-rest so she hit Sue Yin. I pulled her away. Then Sue Yin looked at Zhi Ying and again put her hand on the arm-rest which made Zhi Ying angry and again, wanted to hit her. I stopped her and she was very angry until she hit and shouted at me repeatly for 2-3 times. She felt guilty instantly and started to cry and put her head on my chest. My heart broke as she never hit me so badly before with that super upset look on her face like "why is she keep touching the arm rest and why r u stopping me?" I told her "Can hit mummy or not?" She said no and cried even louder. I told her to say sorry and she did. She just cried and cried feeling upset about Sue Yin and feeling guilty that she hit me. Then I hugged her and told her "you cannot hit mommy and cannot hit Sue Yin ok? Mummy love u. That is not Zhi Ying's arm rest and not Sue Yin's arm rest, so you cannot hit Sue Yin. That is yeh yeh's arm rest".
I'm so disturb by this incident and I even surf the internet to find a solution to this misbehaviour. Some mother's advice was to implement time-out. However, come to think of it, distracting her with something she likes to eat whenever she starts to get mad with Sue Yin helps, at the same time telling her that Sue Yin is her younger cousin sister and she cannot hit her. Most of the time, she'd be able to accept this better than scolding her or giving her time-out which can make both of us more stressful. I know she must be wondering why she has to keep on giving in to Sue Yin. But sooner or later, she has to learn to give in sometimes. She does give in sometimes and all of us will compliment her. Maybe out of 5 times, she'd give in 2-3 times. I think that's good enough. I'll just have to remember to distract her with her favourite snack if this happens again and tell her that she cannot hit Sue Yin anymore. I've forgotten to do that today and worsen the situation. Probably it was also about her nap time already. I prefer to opt for this method than hitting her or implementing time-out. Sometimes, you cant have time-out when you're outside the house.
