We always have bed time talk. Just last week, you told me that 1 of your best friend J did something bad. You cried. I asked what did you do when she did something bad? Can you manage? You said you just walk away & don't bother. But you feel very upset about it.
Next morning, I woke up at 5:30am, couldn't sleep back, thinking about your problem. What or how should I help you or how should we look at this matter. Seeing you cry it's extremely heart breaking. On our way to school, I asked you what did you do after J did that "something" to you. You said you just walked away & tell yourself let the negatives go away, positive come come come. Luckily, on our way to school, an idea just popped up. I told you that in this world, there are many J we will meet. God need to introduce you to this situation so in future you'll be tough. It is God's arrangement to bring J to you because you need this skill. A skill where you will not be bothered by bullies & learn how to walk away from them. I gave you an example of someone whom I know, who couldn't take criticism and resigned from a job and later regretted. So, if you know how to manage negative situations and turn it into positive situation or learn how to pull through, then you will not end up like mummy's friend, who now faces financial difficulties because she's out of job.
I said J doesn't have mummy to send her to school every morning. You have God and mummy to love you. So we must forgive J. Even though she's not going to be your good friend in future, we still must not act like her or respond badly to her bad treatment.
After hearing all this, you just brighten up. That smile on your face reassures me that you'll know how to take it positively whenever J or whoever behaves badly towards you.
N/T: We're not Christian but we believe there's God, be it Kwan In or Jesus.
Monday, August 29, 2016
Wednesday, July 20, 2016
7 years & 10 months old - 8 years & 6 months old
16 Aug 2015
I corrected your breast stroke & reminded you to ensure your hands move just near the surface so that your body wouldn't sink in so much. We also learn the basic which is swimming straight with a board. While lying down on the bed tonight, you asked what if one day you fall sick when you are away from home i.e. in college. I said then you will have a room-mate to help care for you. You asked what if you are home sick. Can you come home and visit us? I said yes. I said ride on a bus to go back home every weekend last time. So a lot of money was spent on buying bus tickets.
23 Aug 2015
Notes on I believe in you. You have high perseverance. You always keep on trying and dare to take risk. You are independent.
20 Sep 2015
We were on 13 hours bus ride from Penang to KL. You learnt to sleep in the bus by yourself with C and she helped to look after JK when I go to the toilet.
4 Oct 2015
After our Penang trip, you seem to be more independent & tough. During the long journey, you had to endure being hungry, tired and not having a comfortable place to sleep. I was sitting with JK and daddy on the other side. Mummy was feeling nausea due to lack of food. I kept the food for you, C and JK because I was afraid we couldn't stop for food.
12 Oct 2015
I brought choc moist cake from secret recipe to daycare to celebrate your birthday. This morning you complimented mummy for making good choices as all my clothes fits me perfectly well. The other day you said I matched your clothes really well too. You like me to wear my white top and white pants. You also like me to wear jeans.
7 Dec 2015
Today it's your first day of science camp. You nap at day care without any of our pillows. You successfully learn how to sleep without your favorite pillows and learn how to find the right position to fall asleep. That's an achievement.
16 Dec 2015
You used the word whimpering and I'm impressed. That's the output from your reading.
18 Jan 2016
You have turned into a happy girl ever since you joined your new school. Even though I just lecture you for loosing your bottle, never shower whole day and never brush teeth. You laughed when l said the cooling button on the hair dryer puts out fire if your hair becomes too hot. Previously, after a lecture, you usually would still be upset.
You are more mature and love didi more. Today, you cuddle him and kissed him. I haven't seen this sort of act since when he was still a baby. I'm really happy when both of you show affection towards each other.
20 Apr 2016
You said Ryan asked you to go out of the class to the bag area. You asked him to tell what he wanted to tell. He closed his mouth with both hands and then opened to utter "I Love You" so quickly before he ran back into the class.
In the car on our way home from condo, you told me Ryan touched your back to help you to climb up the slope. You told him you were fine and asked him to go do other things. Then he said he didn't have anything else to do. Hahahaha....
At night, you asked why Ryan loves you. I said it's our body's chemical reaction. When they are close to the right body that matches, then that person will think it's love.
I told you that it's normal to have someone telling you that he/she loves you. You said having Ryan to love you is useful. I was shocked. "USEFUL"? I can't believe my ears. I asked why do you say it's useful? You said if you are in trouble he will be there to help you. Hahaha!!
I asked you if you did play at school today. You said yes. You also went to the library for awhile. then you said..hmm...tomorrow maybe you will spend sometime with Jacelyn then maybe spend some time with Ryan. Then you continued saying..."I don't know...I'm not sure yet....Hahahahhaha!!!!
I corrected your breast stroke & reminded you to ensure your hands move just near the surface so that your body wouldn't sink in so much. We also learn the basic which is swimming straight with a board. While lying down on the bed tonight, you asked what if one day you fall sick when you are away from home i.e. in college. I said then you will have a room-mate to help care for you. You asked what if you are home sick. Can you come home and visit us? I said yes. I said ride on a bus to go back home every weekend last time. So a lot of money was spent on buying bus tickets.
23 Aug 2015
Notes on I believe in you. You have high perseverance. You always keep on trying and dare to take risk. You are independent.
20 Sep 2015
We were on 13 hours bus ride from Penang to KL. You learnt to sleep in the bus by yourself with C and she helped to look after JK when I go to the toilet.
4 Oct 2015
After our Penang trip, you seem to be more independent & tough. During the long journey, you had to endure being hungry, tired and not having a comfortable place to sleep. I was sitting with JK and daddy on the other side. Mummy was feeling nausea due to lack of food. I kept the food for you, C and JK because I was afraid we couldn't stop for food.
12 Oct 2015
I brought choc moist cake from secret recipe to daycare to celebrate your birthday. This morning you complimented mummy for making good choices as all my clothes fits me perfectly well. The other day you said I matched your clothes really well too. You like me to wear my white top and white pants. You also like me to wear jeans.
7 Dec 2015
Today it's your first day of science camp. You nap at day care without any of our pillows. You successfully learn how to sleep without your favorite pillows and learn how to find the right position to fall asleep. That's an achievement.
16 Dec 2015
You used the word whimpering and I'm impressed. That's the output from your reading.
18 Jan 2016
You have turned into a happy girl ever since you joined your new school. Even though I just lecture you for loosing your bottle, never shower whole day and never brush teeth. You laughed when l said the cooling button on the hair dryer puts out fire if your hair becomes too hot. Previously, after a lecture, you usually would still be upset.
You are more mature and love didi more. Today, you cuddle him and kissed him. I haven't seen this sort of act since when he was still a baby. I'm really happy when both of you show affection towards each other.
20 Apr 2016
You said Ryan asked you to go out of the class to the bag area. You asked him to tell what he wanted to tell. He closed his mouth with both hands and then opened to utter "I Love You" so quickly before he ran back into the class.
In the car on our way home from condo, you told me Ryan touched your back to help you to climb up the slope. You told him you were fine and asked him to go do other things. Then he said he didn't have anything else to do. Hahahaha....
At night, you asked why Ryan loves you. I said it's our body's chemical reaction. When they are close to the right body that matches, then that person will think it's love.
I told you that it's normal to have someone telling you that he/she loves you. You said having Ryan to love you is useful. I was shocked. "USEFUL"? I can't believe my ears. I asked why do you say it's useful? You said if you are in trouble he will be there to help you. Hahaha!!
I asked you if you did play at school today. You said yes. You also went to the library for awhile. then you said..hmm...tomorrow maybe you will spend sometime with Jacelyn then maybe spend some time with Ryan. Then you continued saying..."I don't know...I'm not sure yet....Hahahahhaha!!!!
Thursday, July 14, 2016
8 years & 9 months old - 14 July 2016 First School Trip
It's your first school trip today & I'm thinking about you since I left you at school. I let you keep your GPS watch in your bag just incase you needed to call me. I know this is against teachers advice that is to pass it to her when you see her but I'm just too worry.
I couldn't sleep last night thinking about what else I should remind you when you're out there without me. I wrote few reminders on a piece of paper and put it in a plastic A4 sheet protector so you can read to remember not to leave your partner and group member, not to walk alone, wipe your hands before touching your food etc.
You packed your own extra clothes and stomach ache oil (Ruyi Oil and Minyak Cap Kapak) into JK's small monkey bag. Initially you didn't know which bag to take along. Then you finally chose JK's little bag. You didn't want to take your Rilakuma bag because you think it's too big. I let you have RM20 to buy KFC for lunch because that's what is written in the itinerary for lunch at 12:30pm.
When you came back from the trip, you said some of your friends had stomach ache so luckily you brought ruyi oil & you're the only one who has it. You said your teacher, Ms Mayes had migraine so you passed her the "Minyak Cap Kapak" to apply on her head. For lunch, all of you had KFC. You didn't drink the ice lemon tea because you didn't like it. You sat with Crystal because she said you're her best friend and best friend forever. She told you before the trip, which is the day after your class performance on the 27th June.
On 27th June 2016, after your performance with your friends on the stage, I manage to speak to Crystal's mum. After she took a picture of Crystal, Jacelyn and you together, I told her that both of you sits together for lunch every day. The next day, you told me you have a good news. You said that Crystal said you're her best friend and also her best friend forever. I congratulated you & felt very happy for you.
You said sometimes Crystal will hug you from the back & so you did the same to her. So sweet.
I couldn't sleep last night thinking about what else I should remind you when you're out there without me. I wrote few reminders on a piece of paper and put it in a plastic A4 sheet protector so you can read to remember not to leave your partner and group member, not to walk alone, wipe your hands before touching your food etc.
You packed your own extra clothes and stomach ache oil (Ruyi Oil and Minyak Cap Kapak) into JK's small monkey bag. Initially you didn't know which bag to take along. Then you finally chose JK's little bag. You didn't want to take your Rilakuma bag because you think it's too big. I let you have RM20 to buy KFC for lunch because that's what is written in the itinerary for lunch at 12:30pm.
When you came back from the trip, you said some of your friends had stomach ache so luckily you brought ruyi oil & you're the only one who has it. You said your teacher, Ms Mayes had migraine so you passed her the "Minyak Cap Kapak" to apply on her head. For lunch, all of you had KFC. You didn't drink the ice lemon tea because you didn't like it. You sat with Crystal because she said you're her best friend and best friend forever. She told you before the trip, which is the day after your class performance on the 27th June.
On 27th June 2016, after your performance with your friends on the stage, I manage to speak to Crystal's mum. After she took a picture of Crystal, Jacelyn and you together, I told her that both of you sits together for lunch every day. The next day, you told me you have a good news. You said that Crystal said you're her best friend and also her best friend forever. I congratulated you & felt very happy for you.
You said sometimes Crystal will hug you from the back & so you did the same to her. So sweet.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)